Sunday, March 24, 2013

I'm awkward

You guys, I think I've figured out why I'm single.

I saw this the other day and it explains me. But let's rephrase it and just say, "I AM awkward if I find you attractive."

When I'm around guys I don't like (romantically), I am myself. I make jokes, I'm fun, I laugh, I listen.

When I have a crush on a guy or find someone attractive, I have the superpower of awkwardness. I should wear a cape. I'm quiet, constantly thinking I'm going to say the wrong thing, I want them to like me, I'm hesitant, I act shy. Who IS that person? Not me. I'm so annoyed at myself.

This can cause problems because guys I'm friends with (and act normal around) might think I like them because my friendliness can be misconstrued as interest. And the guys I actually DO like don't like me back for whatever reason. But probably because who would be attracted to an odd awkward person who doesn't show their real personality?

Any advice, friends? What has worked for you?


Emily said...

Sarah, I had to laugh because you're describing me. I can remember crying about it on my mom's shoulder when I was in high school. When I was in 7th grade the guy I liked came over to say hi to me and you know what I did? The splits. Yes, I dropped into the splits. As if that was dweebish enough, I was wearing roller skates. Awkward much? I'm sure he thought there was something seriously wrong with me. I never outgrew it. I'm convinced the only way I landed Matt was because our parents set us up, and it was long distance. There wasn't the awkward problem with the first 4 months of our relationship because it happened over the phone. I know this probably doesn't help you out much, but at least maybe it will make you laugh. Love you!

Smarshie said...

Oh my gosh, Emily, I indeed did laugh out loud. The splits! So amazing. =)

Anonymous said...

Sarah, I am the same exact way!!! So, I can't provide you with any advice. I am 34 going to be 35 this year and still single. I go to single's events, have done the online dating thing and figured it wasn't for me. I have been told I am very attractive and nice all my life yet I cannot seem to find someone special. Men rarely approach me!! People in my church community make me feel even more horrible about my situation by making comments like, "you're too picky" giving me pity-faces and then pressuring me to go out with middle aged overweight unattractive men with no education who don't even speak english (I am serious). At least they have a job.... Well, this in turn makes me feel even worse!! I decided I had to find a different church community after that. I blame this behaviour on extended relatives who express their desperation to see me coupled off. I do have an education and am always looking to further my career and I am not going to apologize for that. I also do make time to meet people, but nothing! Some people think it's because I strictly want someone from the community but that isn't the case! Although I would prefer someone from our community. I am just tired of it all!!

Smarshie said...

Anon, you have DEFINITELY come to the right place. I relate you on every level. =) Have you read this one?

Anonymous said...

Oh yeah, I read that blog post before the one I commented on. It is true we have to trust God in these circumstances. It's just so frustrating. More so I think because of societal pressure. Well you can check out my blog at if you like.