tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post7974288006034169085..comments2023-06-29T01:07:55.693-07:00Comments on Laugh long. Laugh hard.: 34 and singleSmarshiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-68944622154087627832014-03-31T23:58:05.249-07:002014-03-31T23:58:05.249-07:00Hi Anon, I'm glad this post was an encourageme...Hi Anon, I'm glad this post was an encouragement to you. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-14233313190791684072014-03-27T13:20:01.063-07:002014-03-27T13:20:01.063-07:00I am having a very rough few days betting myself u...I am having a very rough few days betting myself up for being 34 and single. I so needed to read this. Thank you! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-50642412419266649752014-03-09T19:42:53.313-07:002014-03-09T19:42:53.313-07:00Hi Aaiya, I'm so glad you ran across this blog...Hi Aaiya, I'm so glad you ran across this blog and I loved what you shared! I agree, sometimes when we feel down about being single, we should look at our lives and marvel at how God has blessed us. It helps our perspective and attitude. <br /><br />And I liked what you said about God's timing. I keep telling myself that my timing is not God's timing (and vice versa). And His timing is always perfect, even when it doesn't make any sense to us. <br /><br />And yes, it is HARD! But that's why this post and all the comments have been so encouraging. We're not alone. Many of us are admitting that being single is hard and yet we're choosing to trust God. That's beautiful. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-77191263171186300542014-02-22T08:15:41.546-08:002014-02-22T08:15:41.546-08:00I just found this post and was bawling by the time...I just found this post and was bawling by the time I was done. This is so me. I too am a believer and sometimes questions God and His provision for me in that one area. However when I look around and see all the wonderful things He's provided I know He has a plan for me. It's hard sometimes I won't lie. So thank you very much for this post .. at least I know I'm not alone. May God's favour be on you and may He provide for us all in His time. Aaiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13638423709746317083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-843408714700166572014-01-09T02:01:57.152-08:002014-01-09T02:01:57.152-08:00Hi Anon, what you said is totally true. There are ...Hi Anon, what you said is totally true. There are great guys that don't go to church. And some of the guys at church aren't so great. (The same could be said for women who do or don't go to church.) However, sharing my faith with my husband will be the most important thing in our relationship, so that's what I'm looking for.Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-81038933673382862042013-12-19T18:13:23.328-08:002013-12-19T18:13:23.328-08:00Being a Christian should not matter, you should li...Being a Christian should not matter, you should like a guy regardless of his faith. There are lots of great guys who don't go to church and there are lost who do that are not so great. I hope you find love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-17513768454486638702013-12-14T00:01:05.271-08:002013-12-14T00:01:05.271-08:00Hi Anon, thank you for writing. First off, I'm...Hi Anon, thank you for writing. First off, I'm sorry for your engagement ending. I'm sure it was for a very good reason (reasons?) but it is a bit disheartening to think, "Now I have to start all over at square one." But you are absolutely right - to be in a miserable marriage would be worse than being single.<br /><br />(By the way, I hope people around you will be mature, understanding, and supportive instead of judge-y.)<br /><br />This is a hard season you're going through. But I love that God created seasons in life. To use this metaphor, I remind myself that winter always ends, the snow melts, and spring comes - bringing new life and growth. I hope you are encouraged that "spring" will be here soon. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-56091671929763567332013-12-02T11:30:20.240-08:002013-12-02T11:30:20.240-08:00God is definitely using you right now. I am now do...God is definitely using you right now. I am now doubting myself and God. I am going through a breakup in which my engagement was canceled. Im feeling like a huge failure and yes here I go again 34 and single. Im waiting for the judgements and the what's wrong with her comments. Although id much rather be single than in a miserable relationship, but realistically I desire to be married and right now I doubt that will ever happen.<br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It's nice to know that I'm not alone. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-90715866092989628592013-10-27T23:26:24.473-07:002013-10-27T23:26:24.473-07:00I like your post, but just wanted to point out tha...I like your post, but just wanted to point out that god exist.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-85798269353657186552013-10-16T12:38:45.660-07:002013-10-16T12:38:45.660-07:00Hi Smarshie, thanx for your encouragement and your...Hi Smarshie, thanx for your encouragement and your blog, you couldn't have imagined that it would go on for this long and impact so many lives, you're such an inspiration, I pray God grant you the desires of your heart Amen. I'm doing better now, and I've received a word- to check the condition of my heart, to sow seeds of the Word that address my desires and till my heart with praise, forgiveness and Gods love. Thank- uSunshinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-15970131135971432262013-10-15T22:18:01.067-07:002013-10-15T22:18:01.067-07:00Hi Sunshine, I'm sorry you are struggling so m...Hi Sunshine, I'm sorry you are struggling so much right now. I mentioned this in an above comment but it's worth repeating again.<br /><br />Anytime you feel worthless or you feel like a joke, just remind yourself...those are lies. They are not from God. The Lord tells us to trust him. That it's okay to be weak, because then He can be our strength. That He is the one in control, not us. That He has a plan for our lives (and we usually don't know what that is). And He is the giver of hope, which we so desperately need during hard times. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-47970033468672282612013-10-15T22:11:28.203-07:002013-10-15T22:11:28.203-07:00I haven't checked this post in awhile and I...I haven't checked this post in awhile and I'm so glad I did tonight because I wanted to respond to "Anonymous". Hi Anon, I'm glad you found this post and commented. I just wanted to say a couple things to what you wrote. <br /><br />You asked if I've ever considered my faith in God to be a deterrent to men. Yes, there are probably times when it has been. But my faith is the most important thing to me and about me. So if it's a deterrent that I follow Jesus, then I shouldn't be dating those guys anyway. I really desire to be with someone who shares my faith and beliefs. <br /><br />You also asked if I ever considered that religion might be a load of nonsense and that my own basic need for companionship is more important.<br /><br />Yep, there have been times in my life where I've doubted God. I've doubted both His existence and if He truly does have control of my life. I've wondered if Christianity was nonsense.<br /><br />But through my ups and downs, my doubts, my questioning, my searching...I always come back to God. To me, He is real. He is truth. He created everything. Through Him, I have life. My love for Him overcomes my doubts. I'm not trying to be "preachy", I just want to share where I'm coming from.<br /><br />As far as companionship, I have it. I have an awesome family, co-workers, roomates, and friends. But I am looking for something deeper than just companionship. I am looking for a husband. A husband who I can share everything with, including my faith in Jesus. <br /><br />I can definitely say I am not waiting for God to magically have my husband show up on my doorstep. I mean, it's been over two years since I wrote this post and I am still single. It's still hard, but I'm continuing to join activities and meet people. You know, put myself out there. My prayer is that he will be worth the wait. <br /><br />He won't be perfect. I'm not perfect. I don't need or want perfection. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-75263028572125186122013-10-13T00:47:18.643-07:002013-10-13T00:47:18.643-07:00I'm 34 unmarried born again, never dated bcuz ...I'm 34 unmarried born again, never dated bcuz I always thought God would bless my life, like you I thought I'd be married by 25, looking back I'm sooo sad that this is where I am, I could tear myself into pieces I regret the life I've lived. I come from a Christian family but behind closed doors filled with domestic violence, lack, abuse. We pray, serve, give but God does not answer. I don't want this life I have no desire to live anymore, I've accepted that I'm a joke I can't pray anymore, he never loved me, if he did he would've answered and given by now. I'm soooo stupid, I was never meant to be here. If I were to go back in time i wouldn't spend all my time in churchSunshinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-9512488922535378532013-09-30T15:33:33.014-07:002013-09-30T15:33:33.014-07:00Correction to sentence in my post above: "The...Correction to sentence in my post above: "There is NO fairness in the world!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-46759194556394683432013-09-30T15:32:05.464-07:002013-09-30T15:32:05.464-07:00Smarshie, I'm a 34 year old guy and I'm si...Smarshie, I'm a 34 year old guy and I'm single. So I know what it's like to be 34 and single. From reading your comments, it sounds like you have met single guys, but none of them are exactly what you want them to be. I can honestly tell you that no one will ever be exactly what you want them to be. Also, you are good looking. Maybe it's the whole Jesus thing that puts many guys off. Have you ever considered that religion might be a load of nonsense, and that your own basic need for companionship is more important? Forget about religion. If religion cared about you, why would it make you suffer? Wake up to reality, lady! There is no god! There is fairness in the world! If you want a boyfriend, go out into the world and find one. Take action. Don't wait for an imaginary super being to deliver things to do your doorstep just because you've managed to convince yourself that things can happen that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-2109773940643292172013-08-15T01:07:52.320-07:002013-08-15T01:07:52.320-07:00Hey Anon, welcome to the blog and thanks for writi...Hey Anon, welcome to the blog and thanks for writing. We're all in this together. (We should start a club and wear matching jackets.) =)Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-32611755101897015082013-08-14T05:42:52.089-07:002013-08-14T05:42:52.089-07:00Hey!
Another 34 and single here. Thanks for the b...Hey!<br />Another 34 and single here. Thanks for the blog. Sometimes feel like a loser but I'm not, there's lots of us out there and there is nothing wrong with us! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-75290696114467851472013-07-22T21:49:24.730-07:002013-07-22T21:49:24.730-07:00Hi Riya. How fun that you are writing from India! ...Hi Riya. How fun that you are writing from India! Yes, please remember you are not alone in this. We are in the same boat. Loving God and patiently waiting for Him to bring us together with our intended. And yes, sometimes the best way to deal with people's comments is to have a great sense of humor about it. And keep praying!Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-48141089215892947312013-07-09T14:37:44.627-07:002013-07-09T14:37:44.627-07:00Unmarried women specially above thiry are still fr...Unmarried women specially above thiry are still frowned upon in certain parts of my country and tends to cause comments. But as you said laugh loud at it and do that a lot. But its nice to know am not alone in the world. Thanks a lot again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11209837852322708413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-63755736101340229382013-07-09T14:32:46.359-07:002013-07-09T14:32:46.359-07:00Hello, I am an Indian woman of thirty four and alt...Hello, I am an Indian woman of thirty four and although orient is coming a rapid close to your country, women above thirty are still considered oddballs in the society. I am smartly single and God loving too. although of a different race and religion. But reading your article was a definite morale booster. Thanks and keep posting more such stuffAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11209837852322708413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-57138177067899672022012-12-30T18:41:07.671-08:002012-12-30T18:41:07.671-08:00Thanks for your comment, nla78. I think our doubt ...Thanks for your comment, nla78. I think our doubt is normal. In fact, I'd be surprised if I met a single male or female in their 30's and they DIDN'T struggle with doubt. But you are so right - it's important for us to look back and see how God has taken care of us and provided for us in the past. We obviously don't know what He has in store for us and it can be hard waiting. But do I believe He is a GOOD god? Yes. Do I trust Him, even when I doubt? Yes. Is it hard being patient? YES. =) But that doesn't mean I stop believing He is good and/or worthy of our trust. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-8479018401064724052012-12-26T13:28:24.127-08:002012-12-26T13:28:24.127-08:00I love your post. I'll be 34 this year and I h...I love your post. I'll be 34 this year and I have doubts at times but I choose to remember all the times God has been there for me. He has brought many miracles in my life and I know he has a plan for me. nla78https://www.blogger.com/profile/05352674142829406401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-7518465585090728062012-09-19T00:01:29.059-07:002012-09-19T00:01:29.059-07:00Hi Anon, thanks for your comment. It's always ...Hi Anon, thanks for your comment. It's always good to get a guy's perspective on things. Yes, I agree with you: when we get into our 30's, it seems all our friends are married or married with kids. And that's normal. I just struggle with feeling abnormal because I don't fit in either category. But while I continue to pray for whoever God is going to bring into my life, I WILL live my life and live it for the glory of God! Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-85781251409571821222012-09-08T08:46:43.861-07:002012-09-08T08:46:43.861-07:00Smarshie, I will admit that I was somewhat disappo...Smarshie, I will admit that I was somewhat disappointed when I typed in this phrase in google.com "34 years old and still single" I found this blog to be very helpful to me as a guy most of the woman my age are married have kids or single and have kids. My greatest strength is change and relationships. Smarshie, Someone told me once that maybe the reason why you are still single is because maybe the person that God has picked for you is not ready yet, or maybe you are not ready for them, or maybe God has someone really special waiting for you. I love life, even though I like to stick on a schedule, I love change as it keeps me from getting bored!<br />Congratulation on this post being in the top 10 2 spot of the "34 years old and still single" category of google.com Until than live laugh play, that is what I do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15021389.post-21415580835684627422012-08-27T23:22:53.005-07:002012-08-27T23:22:53.005-07:00Anonymous, THIS is why I love the internet. You ar...Anonymous, THIS is why I love the internet. You are across the world serving in East Africa and yet the world wide web can connect us to those who are dealing with the same thing.<br /><br />You brought up a really good point. I feel like I get conflicting messages. The church doesn't know how to handle people in their 30's who aren't married (or have kids), so there's a lot of awkwardness. "Why aren't you married? Why aren't you dating anyone?" etc. And then society tells us, "Screw marriage. Live your life. You don't need a man to make you happy. Be strong and independent!" etc.<br /><br />I'm sure being around a bunch of young twenty-somethings can be refreshing but hard at times. =) Sometimes when I hang around my college students, I am wistful and a bit envious. I dated a lot when I was in my early 20's but now everyone my age is married and I feel like the odd man (woman) out. <br /><br />I also loved what you shared: "I do know that the peace I get from him [God], I can't get from any relationship." So true! I am discovering that more and more. Thank you for the reminder.<br /><br />Basically I am just glad you wrote. And that goes for everyone who has shared on here. It's so nice to know I'm not alone in this struggle. We can encourage each other in this, which is wonderful. Smarshiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662469779133909245noreply@blogger.com